What are the agreements you are living by? One of my favorite books is a little book named “The Four Agreements,” by Don Miguel Ruiz. The book talks about the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. This little book (only 138 pages) offers a powerful code of conduct that can transform our lives.
In his book, “The Four Agreements,” Don Miguel Ruiz says…
“There are thousands of agreements you have made with yourself, with other people, with your dream life, with God, with society, with your parents, with your spouse, with your children. But the most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave. The result is what you call your personality. In these agreements you say, “This is what I am. This is what I believe. I can do certain things, and some things I cannot do. This is reality, that is fantasy; this is possible, that is possible.”
One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that make us suffer, that make us fail in life. If you want to live a life of joy and fulfillment, you have to find the courage to break those agreements that are fear-based and claim your personal power. The agreements that come from fear require us to expend a lot of energy, but the agreements that come from love help us to conserve energy and even gain extra energy.
Each of us is born with a certain amount of personal power that we rebuild every day after we rest. Unfortunately, we spend all our personal power first to create all these agreements and then to keep these agreements. Our personal power is dissipated by all the agreements we have created, and the result is that we feel powerless. We have just enough power to survive each day, because most of it is used to keep the agreements that trap us in the dream of the planet. How can we change the entire dream of our life when we have no power to change even the smallest agreement?
If we can see it is our agreements which rule over our life, and we don’t like the dream of our life, we need to change our agreements. When we are finally ready to change our agreements, there are four very powerful agreements that will help us break those agreements that come from fear and deplete our energy.
Each time you break an agreement, all the power you used to create it returns to you. If you adopt these four new agreements, they will create enough personal power for you to change the entire system of your old agreements.
You need a very strong will in order to adopt the Four Agreements — but if you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing. You will see the drama of hell disappear right before your very eyes. Instead of living in a dream of hell, you will be creating a new dream — your personal dream of heaven.
The Four Agreements:
1 – Be Impeccable With Your Word – this is the most important agreement and also the most difficult to one to honor. It is so important that with just this first agreement you will be able to transcend to the level of existence I call heaven on earth.
This agreement sounds very simple, but is very, very powerful. Your word is the power that you have to create. Your word is the gift that comes directly from God. Through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word.
The word is not just a sound or a written symbol. The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life. The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you. One edge is the misuse of the word, which creates a living hell. The other edge is the impeccability of the word, which will only create beauty, love, and heaven on earth. Depending on how it is used, the word can set you free, or it can enslave you even more than you know.
2 – Don’t Take Anything Personally – Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. If I see you on the street and say, “Hey, you are so stupid,” without knowing you, it’s not about you; it’s about me. If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe you are stupid. Maybe you think to yourself, “How does he know? Is he clairvoyant, or can everybody see how stupid I am?”
You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, the poison goes through you, and you are trapped in the dream of hell. What causes you to be trapped is what we call personal importance. Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me.” During the period of our education, or our domestication, we learn to take everything personally. We think we are responsible for everything. Me, me, me, always me!
Nothing other people do is because of you. It is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication.
When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little, because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by giving them your own opinions. In the same way, whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements. What you say, what you do, and the opinions you have are according to the agreements you have made — and these opinions have nothing to do with me.
Others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is about them.
You may even tell me, “Miguel, what you are saying is hurting me.” But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way I can take this personally. Not because I don’t believe in you or don’t trust you, but because I know that you see the world with different eyes, with your eyes. You create an entire picture or movie in your mind, and in that picture you are the director, you are the producer, you are the main actor or actress. Everyone else is a secondary actor or actress. It is your movie.
The way you see that movie is according to the agreements you have made with life. Your point of view is something personal to you. It is no one’s truth but yours. Then, if you get mad at me, I know you are dealing with yourself. I am the excuse for you to get mad. And you get mad because you are afraid, because you are dealing with fear. If you are not afraid, there is no way you will get mad at me. If you are not afraid, there is no way you will hate me. If you are not afraid, there is no way you will be jealous or sad.
If you live without fear, if you love, there is no place for any of those emotions. If you don’t feel any of those emotions, it is logical that you will feel good. When you feel good, everything around you is good. When everything around you is great, everything makes you happy. You are loving everything around you, because you are loving yourself. Because you like the way you are. Because you are content with you. Because you are happy with your life. You are happy with the movie that you are producing, happy with your agreements with your life. You are at peace, and you are happy.
If someone is not treating you with love and respect, it is a gift if they walk away from you. If that person doesn’t walk away, you will surely endure many years of suffering with him or her. Walking away may hurt for awhile, but your heart will eventually heal. Then you can choose what you really want. You will find that you don’t need to trust others as much as you need to trust yourself to make the right choices.
3 – Don’t Make Assumptions – We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking — we take it personally — then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.
We make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We assume that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse. This is the biggest assumption that humans make. And this is why we have a fear of being ourselves around others. Because we think everyone else will judge us, victimize us, abuse us, and blame us as we do ourselves. So even before others have a chance to reject us, we have already rejected ourselves. That is the way the human mind works. We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflict.
4 – Always Do Your Best – Under any circumstances, always do your best, no more and no less. But keep in mind that your best is never going to be the same from one moment to the next. Everything is alive and changing all the time, so your best will sometimes be high quality, and other times it will not be as good. When you wake up refreshed and energized in the morning, your best will be better than when you are tired at night. Your best will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick, or sober as opposed to drunk. Your best will depend on whether you are feeling wonderful and happy, or upset, angry, or jealous.
In your everyday moods your best can change from one moment to another, from one hour to the next, from one day to another. Your best will also change over time. As you build the habit of the four new agreements, your best will become better than it used to be.
Doing your best, you are going to live your life intensely. You are going to be productive, you are going to be good to yourself, because you will be giving yourself to your family, to your community, to everything. But it is the action that is going to make you feel intensely happy. When you always do your best, you take action. Doing your best is taking the action because you love it, not because you’re expecting a reward. Most people do exactly the opposite. They only take action when they expect a reward, and they don’t enjoy the action. And that’s the reason why they don’t do their best.
If you do your best always, over and over again, you will become a master of transformation. If you do your best in the search for personal freedom, in the search for self-love, you will discover that’s its just a matter of time before you find what you are looking for.”
Sunday, 12 February 2012
Thursday, 5 January 2012
The Difference Between Thoughts and Beliefs
One of the most important things to know about the mind and reality is the difference between thoughts and beliefs. The difference between a thought and a belief is that you may have thousands of thoughts going through your mind but none of them have any power except those that are beliefs. A belief is a thought that you make real, or accept as true. Choosing to make a thought real or not is a decision under the very power of the will.
Thought is first a conscious suggestion, then it becomes a subconscious memory, working day and night. This is what operates the law of attraction, because the laws of attraction and repulsion are entirely subconscious. Thoughts may be conscious to start with, but they are subconscious as soon as they are set in motion. Now suppose I did not say I was poor, but came into the world with an unconscious thought of poverty. So long as that thought operated, I would be poor. I might not have understood the Law, but it would have been working all the time.
The subconscious mind is the seat of emotion and the storehouse of memory, therefore memory is tied to emotion. Emotion is energy in motion. The more emotion a thought has, the more it is able to move things. Weak thoughts have little emotion. Strong thoughts have much emotion.
The things we create in our life tend to come from our subconscious beliefs rather than our conscious thinking. If we believe everything we think about is going to manifest in one form or another, we'll probably walk around terrified because most of us aren't thinking positive thoughts all the time. If we have the idea that whenever we think a thought, it will create our reality, then we will be afraid to even think of anything at all.
Emotion is energy in motion, therefore all activity is emotional. The subconscious mind as the seat of emotion is the operational aspect of the mind. All activity is carried out by the subconscious mind which is the creative faculty. The conscious mind only directs and instructs, therefore the subconscious mind always works in harmony with the conscious mind. The coming together of conscious and subconscious mind in order to create reality always involves the element of will and emotion.
A conscious thought only has effect as long as it is being consciously thought of. But when the thought is intensified with emotion until it generates enough momentum to continue flowing on its own and become perpetual. The thought becomes a memory and subconscious programming that runs the whole mind. Every true belief is not just conscious but subconscious and is tied to emotion. A belief is an emotionalized thought.
It is a fact that almost no one can maintain a conscious focus on anything for more than a few seconds. When you focus as fully as you possibly can on maintaining an image or thought in your mind, notice how long it takes before something else pops into your mind. If you're at least modestly observant and honest with yourself, it will almost certainly last only for a few seconds. The interruption comes from your subconscious mind because it is always in motion.
Thus, it's necessary to ensure that your subconscious mind maintains the focus on your target since your conscious mind simply can't do it. When you emotionalize the thought instead, the parts of the brain that excel at maintaining a focus which are the frontal lobes, are energized in a way that maintains the necessary subconscious focus. The result is that, subconsciously, you keep your eyes on the ball, on your target all of the time, even when you're sleeping.
No negative thought can ever manifest except you emotionalize the thought and accept it mentally. Refuse to entertain the suggestion of fear. Therefore no harm can come to you. The way to overcome fear is to mentally move to the opposite. When fear arises, there immediately comes with it a desire for something opposite to the thing feared. Place your attention immediately on the desired. Get absorbed and engrossed in your desire, knowing that the subjective always overturns the objective. Whatever you fear has its solution in the form of your desire. Love is desire. Focusing on your desire is the love that casts out fear.
The feeling of health produces health, the feeling of wealth produces wealth. Your know your vibration by your feeling. Feeling is conscious perception of emotion. An emotion can run without your conscious realization until you become aware of it. Thinking and emotion are symbiotic. If you think thoughts of health or wealth but do not really feel health or wealth, it means you are thinking but not really thinking. You may be thinking the same words but you re not thinking with the right frequency.
Faith is positive expectation. Faith is not knowing how you are you going to get there but you just know that you are going there! You expect to get there. It is knowing feeling that is strong. Fear is negative expectation. The thing you fear does not exist except as a thought in your mind. Thoughts are creative. Expect the good, mentally concentrate on the good, and know that your subconscious mind answers you always. It never fails.
Faith is an action. Your mental and physical actions produce vibration and feeling. When you act as if your desire were a reality, you are acting in faith. Your actions of faith will produce the subconscious feeling and vibration of your desire being a reality. Your subconscious mind is the intelligence of your body. When your bodily actions are of faith, the vibration and emotion of your subconscious mind will also be of faith.
Your imagination is your mental image in action. Your mental image is your faith. It is the evidence of things not seen and the substance of things hope for. Your mental image in action will translate into physical action of your desire coming to pass in the material world.
Your subconscious mind is your heart, the seat of emotion. Your heart's desire is your prayer. Prayer is intention. Prayer is making known to God what you want. To block your prayer is to hinder your intention with limiting beliefs. To open your prayer is to release your intention with liberating beliefs. God hears your prayer according to whether your belief blocks or opens your prayer to him. You have conflicting beliefs about something when your have conflicting emotions about it.
You receive your heart's desire or what you pray for with your faith. Focus on your heart's desire and then see or feel it happen in your mind. Let your physical actions be as though your desire is a reality. Delight yourself in the Lord by feeling the joy of being loved and blessed with his goodness. Detach from the result by committing your way unto him and trusting in him. This is how your desires come to pass. God answers your prayer according to your faith.
Your subconscious mind can only accept and work on affirmations that you find believable. That is why affirming that you have something, when you are not yet really able to believe it, will not work. The whole idea is to create the feeling of experiencing what you want. Therefore choose to use affirmations in the forms that can create those feelings in you. Refrain from using certain affirmations that you cannot really believe in until your understanding of metaphysical workings have progressed to a stage where you have the capacity to believe them.
Faith comes with understanding. Faith comes from hearing and understanding the word of God. Hear and understand. The key is to understand otherwise hearing is in vain. The understanding can be conscious or subconscious. The reason why people can be healed even with their lack of faith or disbelief is because they are put into a state where their conscious mind is bypassed and their disbelief is suspended momentarily so that the suggestions can fall into their subconscious mind and carry out its work.
Subliminal messaging and affirmations have to be designed in such a way that the subconscious can process easily. The word of God as the seed sown flourishes when it falls on good ground. The ground is your heart, the subconscious mind. When your subconscious mind understands the message it receives, it takes root and becomes set in motion. The thought becomes emotionalized, internalized and turns into a belief.
Thought is first a conscious suggestion, then it becomes a subconscious memory, working day and night. This is what operates the law of attraction, because the laws of attraction and repulsion are entirely subconscious. Thoughts may be conscious to start with, but they are subconscious as soon as they are set in motion. Now suppose I did not say I was poor, but came into the world with an unconscious thought of poverty. So long as that thought operated, I would be poor. I might not have understood the Law, but it would have been working all the time.
The subconscious mind is the seat of emotion and the storehouse of memory, therefore memory is tied to emotion. Emotion is energy in motion. The more emotion a thought has, the more it is able to move things. Weak thoughts have little emotion. Strong thoughts have much emotion.
The things we create in our life tend to come from our subconscious beliefs rather than our conscious thinking. If we believe everything we think about is going to manifest in one form or another, we'll probably walk around terrified because most of us aren't thinking positive thoughts all the time. If we have the idea that whenever we think a thought, it will create our reality, then we will be afraid to even think of anything at all.
Emotion is energy in motion, therefore all activity is emotional. The subconscious mind as the seat of emotion is the operational aspect of the mind. All activity is carried out by the subconscious mind which is the creative faculty. The conscious mind only directs and instructs, therefore the subconscious mind always works in harmony with the conscious mind. The coming together of conscious and subconscious mind in order to create reality always involves the element of will and emotion.
A conscious thought only has effect as long as it is being consciously thought of. But when the thought is intensified with emotion until it generates enough momentum to continue flowing on its own and become perpetual. The thought becomes a memory and subconscious programming that runs the whole mind. Every true belief is not just conscious but subconscious and is tied to emotion. A belief is an emotionalized thought.
It is a fact that almost no one can maintain a conscious focus on anything for more than a few seconds. When you focus as fully as you possibly can on maintaining an image or thought in your mind, notice how long it takes before something else pops into your mind. If you're at least modestly observant and honest with yourself, it will almost certainly last only for a few seconds. The interruption comes from your subconscious mind because it is always in motion.
Thus, it's necessary to ensure that your subconscious mind maintains the focus on your target since your conscious mind simply can't do it. When you emotionalize the thought instead, the parts of the brain that excel at maintaining a focus which are the frontal lobes, are energized in a way that maintains the necessary subconscious focus. The result is that, subconsciously, you keep your eyes on the ball, on your target all of the time, even when you're sleeping.
No negative thought can ever manifest except you emotionalize the thought and accept it mentally. Refuse to entertain the suggestion of fear. Therefore no harm can come to you. The way to overcome fear is to mentally move to the opposite. When fear arises, there immediately comes with it a desire for something opposite to the thing feared. Place your attention immediately on the desired. Get absorbed and engrossed in your desire, knowing that the subjective always overturns the objective. Whatever you fear has its solution in the form of your desire. Love is desire. Focusing on your desire is the love that casts out fear.
The feeling of health produces health, the feeling of wealth produces wealth. Your know your vibration by your feeling. Feeling is conscious perception of emotion. An emotion can run without your conscious realization until you become aware of it. Thinking and emotion are symbiotic. If you think thoughts of health or wealth but do not really feel health or wealth, it means you are thinking but not really thinking. You may be thinking the same words but you re not thinking with the right frequency.
Faith is positive expectation. Faith is not knowing how you are you going to get there but you just know that you are going there! You expect to get there. It is knowing feeling that is strong. Fear is negative expectation. The thing you fear does not exist except as a thought in your mind. Thoughts are creative. Expect the good, mentally concentrate on the good, and know that your subconscious mind answers you always. It never fails.
Faith is an action. Your mental and physical actions produce vibration and feeling. When you act as if your desire were a reality, you are acting in faith. Your actions of faith will produce the subconscious feeling and vibration of your desire being a reality. Your subconscious mind is the intelligence of your body. When your bodily actions are of faith, the vibration and emotion of your subconscious mind will also be of faith.
Your imagination is your mental image in action. Your mental image is your faith. It is the evidence of things not seen and the substance of things hope for. Your mental image in action will translate into physical action of your desire coming to pass in the material world.
Your subconscious mind is your heart, the seat of emotion. Your heart's desire is your prayer. Prayer is intention. Prayer is making known to God what you want. To block your prayer is to hinder your intention with limiting beliefs. To open your prayer is to release your intention with liberating beliefs. God hears your prayer according to whether your belief blocks or opens your prayer to him. You have conflicting beliefs about something when your have conflicting emotions about it.
You receive your heart's desire or what you pray for with your faith. Focus on your heart's desire and then see or feel it happen in your mind. Let your physical actions be as though your desire is a reality. Delight yourself in the Lord by feeling the joy of being loved and blessed with his goodness. Detach from the result by committing your way unto him and trusting in him. This is how your desires come to pass. God answers your prayer according to your faith.
Your subconscious mind can only accept and work on affirmations that you find believable. That is why affirming that you have something, when you are not yet really able to believe it, will not work. The whole idea is to create the feeling of experiencing what you want. Therefore choose to use affirmations in the forms that can create those feelings in you. Refrain from using certain affirmations that you cannot really believe in until your understanding of metaphysical workings have progressed to a stage where you have the capacity to believe them.
Faith comes with understanding. Faith comes from hearing and understanding the word of God. Hear and understand. The key is to understand otherwise hearing is in vain. The understanding can be conscious or subconscious. The reason why people can be healed even with their lack of faith or disbelief is because they are put into a state where their conscious mind is bypassed and their disbelief is suspended momentarily so that the suggestions can fall into their subconscious mind and carry out its work.
Subliminal messaging and affirmations have to be designed in such a way that the subconscious can process easily. The word of God as the seed sown flourishes when it falls on good ground. The ground is your heart, the subconscious mind. When your subconscious mind understands the message it receives, it takes root and becomes set in motion. The thought becomes emotionalized, internalized and turns into a belief.
Wednesday, 4 January 2012
Be Happy by Being Grateful for Whatever Comes
All we want is to be happy in life. Happiness is not only what we feel when we have what we desire, it is also the very emotion that attracts what we desire to us. It is much easier to manifest our intentions if we stop focusing on intending but instead we focus on just being happy with what is. Focus less on asking the universe for this or that and more on just being grateful for whatever comes. We will feel such sweet and true joy when we enjoy the present fully than by trying to create for the future.Many a times, we sabotage the manifestation of our intentions unknowingly by focusing too much on intending. The truth is that focusing on our intentions too much only reinforces the fact that they do not exist, therefore we are trying to manifest them. The idea that you must focus on your intentions all the time is a fallacy. To manifest our desires, you have to be in vibrational harmony with the realization of our desires, which means you must think, feel and act as if your desires have already manifested. If you already had all your desires manifested, you wouldn't be trying to manifest anything, but you would be enjoying and being grateful for all that you have. You would feel totally happy and joyful about the way your life is. You would totally love your life. That is exactly the state for you to be in right now if you want to be in vibrational harmony with all your dreams and desires. This is the secret key all along. It is about not trying to manifest at all but to allow yourself to be as happy as you can be. We have this idea of learning all that we can about how to manifest our desires and wondering why we still fail to manifest as much as we want or as quickly as we want it. We don't realize that we are doing it all wrong. When we try to create something, we are saying that something is lacking. We are trying to change the way things are because things are not acceptable the way they are. What happens is that we are actually creating more of the same situations of not having what we are trying to create. The paradox of this is that we only start creating the things we do want to create when we stop trying to create them. This is why giving up and surrendering our desires to the universe or letting go and letting go is the step for miracles to finally happen. We stop trying to do anything and we affirm that all is well and everything is fine the way it is. When we give up trying to change things and just accept the way it is, almost instantly or within a very short time we see our desire show up into our lives like magic. So instead of trying to change things and trying to create what you want, allow yourself to unconditionally love and totally accept yourself and the way things are. See that the universe is perfect and that there is nothing wrong with it. When you do this, you are coming from a place of sufficiency and wholeness instead of a place of lack and wanting. In manifesting, we begin with experiencing the end result. The beginning and the end are the same when you feel you have what you desire and actually have it.. We tend to miss the joy and happiness of what we have when we are caught up in the problems of life and thinking about what is not there yet or what could be better. We don't have to realize what we have only when it is taken from us. Cherish everything good thing that is present in our lives now to the fullest. You would be really happy if you knew what you desire is already here or is certainly on its way. Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are. Rather than intending for something because it isn't there, you trust and be grateful that all your desires are already granted. Rather than trying to create anything, you are simply doing what brings you joy. You are simply doing what you enjoy and not because you want to produce something. Although you do want to producing something, your main focus and the basis of doing it is because it is what you enjoy, and the production of it is a secondary priority. This is how you are happily creating. When you ask and believe that you have received what you asked for, you would not be striving and struggling to have it. When you know you are already assured of having what you ask for and that it is irreversibly and totally reserved and secured for you, you would be happy, at peace and confidently expecting it rather than worrying and wondering if it is really there or if it will be taken away. You experience more freedom in life and in creating when you allow yourself to be carefree. Remember that if you already had all your desires manifested, you wouldn't be trying to manifest anything, but you would be enjoying and being grateful for all that you have. This is exactly the state for you to be in right now if you want to be in vibrational harmony with all your dreams and desires. Rather than trying to intend and manifest, focus more on being grateful for whatever comes your way. Focus on enjoying the present fully. In the end, it is all about two words. Be happy. |
Sunday, 1 January 2012
Master the Lesson
Master the Lesson
"If there is no struggle, there is no progress." -Frederick Douglass
Do you find that you struggle with the same things over and over again? If so, you haven't mastered the lesson in the struggle.
You probably already know that in life, lessons repeat themselves until you...Master the lesson.
Shakespeare wrote, "Pain pays the price of each precious thing." And there's an old spiritual that says, "If you cain't bear no crosses, you cain't wear no crown."
Of course you and I know that struggles produce varying amounts of discomfort and that the end result is growth, but that doesn't make it any easier, does it?
Struggle can be an extreme test of your emotional intelligence and your diligence. Struggle can make a person feel helpless and dis-empowered, so the key is to make sure that it's a beneficial struggle.
You might be wondering, "What in the world is a beneficial struggle?'" It's a struggle in which you...
Master the lesson.In exercise and training there is a principle called the Overload Principle. In a nutshell, it states that- within reason, the body will adapt to the stresses placed upon it. (i.e weight lifting) Because the mind-body is one system, this principle also applies to the mind if you...
Master the lesson.
When I was growing up, the elders didn't call it the Overload Principle. They simply said, "If it doesn't kill ya, it'll make ya stronger!" That phrase should end with- if you...
Master the lesson.
Change, challenge, and adversity produce lessons. Learning each lesson is like mental weight lifting or aerobics for the mind. Mastering the lesson gives you self-confidence and the fortitude necessary for future struggles.
Going through the same old struggles time and time again is frustrating. It diminishes a person's sense of self-efficacy, autonomy, and competence. In other words it makes a person think, "There ain't nothin' I can do about this."
Find the lesson in the struggle and focus on it. The lesson won't necessarily make the struggle any easier, but it will keep the struggle from being pointless and repetitive.
When you master the lesson, you discover the purpose. With purpose comes a sense of direction and an increased sense of self-empowerment.
So, think about the lesson. Learn the lesson.
Master the lesson.
Saturday, 31 December 2011
WE ARE ALL PERSONAL DEVELOPERS
Whether or not we know it, we are are continually updating ourselves, even if it's only to maintain our current position, although most of us would like to make at least slight changes and improvement in our lives.
The difficulty is knowing where to start. There is a growing demand for answers and strategies; a road map for personal and business success. Many have heard the call and are devoting their lives to helping people empower themselves, create business success, follow new careers, overcome illness, lose weight, and improve their relationships. You will ultimately lead a more fulfilling life if you know the recipe and apply the method.
Western society is more or less programmed to look outside itself for solutions to mental and physical health problems, whereas less technologically devloped countries have what can be considered more alternative methods of dealing with disease. This word accurately describes any condition that moves us away from comfort and pleasure into dis-ease.
The act of helping or improving yourself without relying on anyone else is a good definition of self-help, and is at the heart of personal development. Whichever term you use, they are both under the umbrella of mind, body, spirit.. Amazon books UK currently list 464,470 results in this category. Individually there are less with Personal Development having 85,497 and Self Help 229,076 each.
It would take several lifetimes to read them all, far easier to follow my blog which has really useful content to guide you on the road to self mastery.
Where should we begin? The absolute best place to start is to fully own responsibility for self. Until you do, changes you make are unlikely to stick. Why is this? When our awareness of who we truly are is limited, our perception of reality is clouded so that we can't know how our current existence is actually being created. Taking personal responsibility allows us to acknowledge our own contribution to those things we want to change. We blame circumstance, other people, our job, or even the weather rather than admitting it's anything to do with us.
The difficulty is knowing where to start. There is a growing demand for answers and strategies; a road map for personal and business success. Many have heard the call and are devoting their lives to helping people empower themselves, create business success, follow new careers, overcome illness, lose weight, and improve their relationships. You will ultimately lead a more fulfilling life if you know the recipe and apply the method.
Western society is more or less programmed to look outside itself for solutions to mental and physical health problems, whereas less technologically devloped countries have what can be considered more alternative methods of dealing with disease. This word accurately describes any condition that moves us away from comfort and pleasure into dis-ease.
The act of helping or improving yourself without relying on anyone else is a good definition of self-help, and is at the heart of personal development. Whichever term you use, they are both under the umbrella of mind, body, spirit.. Amazon books UK currently list 464,470 results in this category. Individually there are less with Personal Development having 85,497 and Self Help 229,076 each.
It would take several lifetimes to read them all, far easier to follow my blog which has really useful content to guide you on the road to self mastery.
Where should we begin? The absolute best place to start is to fully own responsibility for self. Until you do, changes you make are unlikely to stick. Why is this? When our awareness of who we truly are is limited, our perception of reality is clouded so that we can't know how our current existence is actually being created. Taking personal responsibility allows us to acknowledge our own contribution to those things we want to change. We blame circumstance, other people, our job, or even the weather rather than admitting it's anything to do with us.
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